Dealing With Being Away From Someone Important To You - Shreya Sachdev
Hi everyone! I hope you’re all having a nice day. For today’s blog post, I thought I would talk about how to deal with being away from someone you love or someone that means something to you. Originally, I was just going to write up a post talking about how to deal with an older sibling leaving for college. This idea came to me today because today my brother left Madrid to go back to the United States in order to start his new job, since he has graduated college. Seeing him leave today obviously made me feel very upset, but also reminded me of the way I felt when I watched him leave for college. It then occurred to me that I have friends who are starting college this year and that a lot of them have younger siblings that have to deal with seeing their brothers or sisters go to college this year, and I thought that it would be nice for me to talk about how to deal with a sibling leaving for college since I know from personal experience that it’s not always the easiest. But then, I realized that I don’t necessarily have to limit this post to only talking about dealing with being away from a sibling who is going to college, but instead I can just give some general tips and advice on how to deal with being away from someone you love, whether that’s a sibling, a parent, a friend, a significant other, etc. I don’t want to make it sound as if I know everything on how to deal with being away from someone important to you, because I really don’t. Honestly, I’ve only had to deal with my father being away on business trips and my brother leaving for college and that’s about it. Fortunately, I’ve never had to deal with anyone passing away in my family and that’s something I’m really grateful for. I know that some people have had to deal with that and I’m sure they know a lot more about letting go than I do, but I still thought I would share some of my own tips.
Understand It’s Not A Big Deal: First of all, moving and being away from people who you’ve grown up with your entire childhood is just a part of life. It felt strange knowing that my brother, the person I’ve seen every single day in my house for fourteen years, was going to be going to college, but then I realized that obviously my brother was going to college because pretty much everyone goes to college to further their education, and realizing that this is something that everyone does made me realize that it’s just not a big deal. On top of that, he was obviously eighteen years old and needed to move out and be independent. Thus, the more I realized that this was something that had to be done and something that was obviously normal, I didn’t care a lot that my brother was gone. I remembered that I had people in my grade whose siblings were also going away that year and that made me feel like I wasn’t alone. But overall, if you are dealing with something natural like an older sibling for college, then just remind yourself that this was bound to happen and that it’s honestly not a big deal.
Keep In Touch: My second piece of advice would be to keep in touch. This requires effort on both sides but it’s high likely that the other person will want to keep in contact with you too if you’re upset about not seeing them anymore. In my experience, my brother and I wouldn’t really set fixed times for us to text or video call, but we would just do it randomly. We would also never end our texts with “got to go” or anything because then it was like the conversation never ended which was really nice. Anyways, you sort of have to understand that because both you and the other person are going to be busy at times, you can’t constantly be texting them or video calling them so if you don’t get a reply instantly or they haven’t texted you in a while, then don’t make too big of a deal out of it. Just be patient and understand that the other person might be having exams or something else important and that you’re just not their top priority right now.
Focus On Yourself: Finally, I would say that a great way to deal with being away from someone important to you is just to distract yourself and to focus on your own goals and your own projects. When my brother left for college, I was entering my freshman year of high school and since I was now in high school, I was beginning to have a lot more work. I remember I was especially determined to do really well in Science since I had done so badly in middle school, and that’s why I made sure to study really hard for all my tests coming up. I also remember that I didn’t understand my history class very well that year so I had to study extra hard in that class and keep reviewing my notes. By studying so hard for my academic work, I was able to distract myself from thinking about my older brother. Also, make sure to surround yourself around people who bring you up and people who you really enjoy being around. I loved my class my freshman year of high school and I ended up making friends I really enjoyed being around so I guess having other people who I liked being with, other than my brother, was really nice and that’s why I recommend surrounding yourself with people you can’t get enough of!