The Worst Things About Being A Girl - Shreya Sachdev
Hi everyone! I hope you’re all having a nice day. For today’s blog post, I thought I would talk about the worst things about being a girl. Obviously, I am a girl and I know that there are certain things about being a girl that definitely suck, even though there are some amazing things about being a girl as well. For example, I love knowing that I can express my feelings and that I can have deep conversations with someone about my thoughts, since for boys I feel like it might be “uncool” or not masculine for him to talk about his feelings and really open up. Personally, I could never imagine keeping things really bottled up inside of me, so for those reasons I’m so glad I’m a girl, and of course there are other things like when it comes to shopping I personally feel like there are nicer clothes out there for women than there are for men. I know some people might think otherwise, but I absolutely love the amount of clothing options that girls have, and on top of that girls also get to use handbags, which is awesome. I also think that as a whole, girls tend to be more clean and more organized, so that’s always a plus since it’s good to be tidy and to of course be organized when it comes to school and other academic work. Anyways, I just wanted to point out some of the reasons as to why I love being a girl since I don’t want this post to come off as me being ungrateful, or unhappy that I was born a girl since that’s definitely not the case. I wouldn’t have it any other way and I’m so proud to be a girl. If any of you are wondering, I’ve been wanting to write this post for a really long time, but today I actually got my period and I was so upset about it because this week is when I officially start university, and also I went to this “Open Mic” event tonight at my university, which was basically just an event where people could stand up and perform anything they wanted, so this one girl from my college got up and performed a poem called “The Struggles of Women” and it was so well written, so I guess me getting my period and this girl performing her poem combined were what motivated me to finally write and publish this post. I’m sorry if I offend anyone in this post because that’s not my intention at all. I’m just here to share my thoughts, but sometimes I don’t express what I mean to say correctly and then people interpret my posts the wrong way, so if that happens that I apologize. If you’re a girl then make sure to let me know what you think the worst thing about being a girl is, and without further ado let’s get started!
Expectations: So, I do think that one of the worst things about being a girl are the expectations from society. What I mean by this is the fact that you have to shave, you have to put on makeup, you have to dress nice, and you have to have nice eyebrows. I know a lot of people are going to tell me that if I don’t want to do those things, then I don’t have to and that it’s completely my choice, and yes I know that but it doesn’t change the fact that girls are still expected to do those things in society. I mean, people go insane when a girl doesn’t shave her legs or if she has a unibrow, whereas with a guy it’s completely acceptable for him to have hair all over his body. There was recently an Instagram photo that Emily Ratajkowski posted of herself, and it’s basically a photo of her showing off her unshaved armpits, and people in the comments went crazy under it. Everyone started talking about how apparently not shaving your armpits is “unhygienic” and that girls shouldn’t be taking any inspiration from this post, and I personally think that’s ridiculous. There’s nothing wrong with a woman not shaving her armpits, just like there’s nothing wrong with a man not shaving his armpits either. It really bothers me to think that people need to make such a big deal out of this, and I think overall really goes to show you how women are expected to shave and not have hair on their body, whereas men aren’t and that really does bother me since we’re all equal. Also, if anyone is wondering then I personally do shave, wax, and I actually get my eyebrows done every two weeks or so, and that’s not because I feel like I need to live up to society’s expectations, but more because I love the way I feel when I get my eyebrows done or I get rid of all the hair on my body, so that’s just a personal feeling that makes me extremely happy. However, I’m sure that there are women out there who don’t want to shave, but feel like they need to because of what society is demanding from them, and I just wish it wasn’t like that.
Fear: The second thing I’m going to talk about is fear, and I think this is something that a lot of girls would agree with me on. I do think that a guy naturally feels safer walking down the street late at night, as opposed to a woman just because as society, we tend to view women as more weak compared to men, and maybe even women tend to believe such a thing which makes them feel more exposed to danger when they’re alone or when it’s late at night, since they believe that if they see a man, the man will view himself as superior and that he’ll feel relatively confident attacking the woman if he chooses to, whereas men don’t feel worried that women are going to attack them late at night. I know for a fact that my older brother and some other guys I know can easily walk home alone at night, whereas girls find it a lot harder. In fact, one of my best friends actually told me that she carries pepper spray in her bag when she walks home alone at night, whereas I don’t know a single guy who carries pepper spray in his bag. Likewise, when I was in high school and was ever out late on the weekends then I would always ask my parents to pick me up rather than me take the public transport. I’m not saying that girls should have anything to worry about since incidents are very rare, but that doesn’t change how girls might feel when they’re alone at night.
Girl Stuff: Lastly, I just want to touch on the most obvious worst thing about being a girl, and that’s a combination of getting your period, having to wear a bra, and following the dress code. My high school did have a dress code, but I never actually got called out for it even though I violated it many times. I think I didn’t get called out for it a lot only because as you guys know, I’m quite short so if I wear a really small pair of shorts or a short dress, then it’s not as obvious compared to when a tall girl wears something like that. However, when I’m in my house and I’m wearing a shirt in which you can see my bra strap or you can see my entire bra through the shirt, then my mom always tells me to go change just because it’s not “appropriate” and this kind of talk bothers me so much because I don’t understand what’s so shocking about an eighteen year old girl wearing a bra. It’s not something that I feel like girls should hide or be ashamed about. When it comes to periods, then I don’t think I even need to explain myself. Periods absolutely suck, but for me I think they suck in a different way. Surprisingly enough, I don’t actually get mood swings or have any cramps when I’m on my period, whereas most girls do. The reason as to why I personally don’t like getting my period is because I hate having to wear a pad every single day, and then having to change it every few hours. It’s so much work, and then I’m always worried about whether or not I’ve accidentally gotten blood on any of my clothes, so it’s all just a stressful time for me and I’m always counting down the days till my period ends.